Seeking to expand beyond blaming…

Learning how we (co)create the circumstances where other peoples’ behaviour is hurtful to us.
And they do so only by being themselves, it’s not even personal most of the time.
Quite a demanding and utterly tricky process…

it requires the uncomfortable truths to be faced, you know, the difficult-to-digest ones…our truths!

Are we determined enough to cross over to the other side? regardless of the price we pay
Do we have the emotional capacity to witness our journey through compassion? As the adventurous explorers of our lives who are imperfect in their perfection.

And that includes every single mistake we make each time.

Usually, we find comfort in blaming others/ make others wrong. And that works by offering only short-term relief as some kind of addictive pacifier.
In the long – term, this only reinforces the route of our problem.

Blaming = punishment= judgement and shaming.
“Making you wrong” is only creating within me the same fear!
if I’m right, then you’re wrong.
Duality occurs within us and then into the manifestation around us.

I used to say “I allowed you (the other person) to hurt me and I need to see in which ways I did so, so I can learn the lesson”
But I’m afraid it’s not enough anymore, and deep inside of me, I know my truth.

I move more into the awareness ” in which ways my behaviour (broken aspects, trauma, ignorance etc) is creating the circumstances (the field) where you are able to behave the way you do”

…Into the awareness, where you can be yourself (the one that hurts me)
…where you can still be your trauma, your broken parts

It’s more about, finding the ways I’ve contributed to this and you remained in a “child” position.
Not a joke at all!
The soil we both fertilize with our behaviours

Relationships are a subject of the constant request. We move on together or not.
It takes years to transform and receive the GIFT of every experience!

I see this in relation to the government, my friends, my partner, my clients, my neighbours, and everywhere!
It’s because of you, that I’m able to see myself! All of ME!

we all walk each other home (Ram Dass)

——-This is for everyone who never felt safe being themselves!