{"id":15283,"date":"2023-03-08T08:33:14","date_gmt":"2023-03-08T08:33:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/roulapapathanasiou.com\/%ce%b7-%ce%b1%ce%bd%ce%ac%cf%80%cf%84%cf%85%ce%be%ce%b7-%ce%ad%cf%81%cf%87%ce%b5%cf%84%ce%b1%ce%b9-%cf%80%ce%ad%cf%81%ce%b1-%ce%b1%cf%80%cf%8c-%cf%84%ce%b7%ce%bd-%ce%b1%ce%bd%ce%ac%ce%b3%ce%ba%ce%b7\/"},"modified":"2024-12-18T11:45:02","modified_gmt":"2024-12-18T09:45:02","slug":"moving-beyond-blaming","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/roulapapathanasiou.com\/en\/moving-beyond-blaming\/","title":{"rendered":"Moving beyond blaming"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Seeking to expand beyond blaming\u2026<\/p>\n

Learning how we (co)create the circumstances where other peoples\u2019 behaviour is hurtful to us.<\/strong>
\nAnd they do so only by being themselves, it\u2019s not even personal most of the time.
\nQuite a demanding and utterly tricky process\u2026<\/p>\n

it requires the uncomfortable truths to be faced, you know, the difficult-to-digest ones\u2026our truths!<\/p>\n

Are we determined enough to cross over to the other side? regardless of the price we pay
\nDo we have the emotional capacity to witness our journey through compassion?<\/strong> As the adventurous explorers of our lives<\/em> who are imperfect in their perfection.<\/p>\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>

And that includes every single mistake we make each time.<\/p>\n

Usually, we find comfort in blaming others\/ make others wrong<\/strong>. And that works by offering only short-term relief as some kind of addictive pacifier.
\nIn the long \u2013 term, this only reinforces the route of our problem.<\/p>\n

Blaming = punishment= judgement and shaming.
\n\u201cMaking you wrong\u201d is only creating within me the same fear!<\/strong>
\nif I\u2019m right, then you\u2019re wrong.
\nDuality occurs within us and then into the manifestation around us.<\/p>\n

I used to say \u201cI allowed you (the other person) to hurt me and I need to see in which ways I did so, so I can learn the lesson\u201d
\nBut I\u2019m afraid it\u2019s not enough anymore, and deep inside of me, I know my truth.<\/p>\n

I move more into the awareness \u201d in which ways my behaviour (broken aspects, trauma, ignorance etc) is creating the circumstances (the field) where you are able to behave the way you do\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2026Into the awareness, where you can be yourself (the one that hurts me)
\n\u2026where you can still be your trauma, your broken parts<\/p>\n

It\u2019s more about, finding the ways I\u2019ve contributed to this and you remained in a \u201cchild\u201d position.
\nNot a joke at all!
\nThe soil we both fertilize with our behaviours<\/p>\n

Relationships are a subject of the constant request. We move on together or not.<\/em>
\nIt takes years to transform and receive the GIFT of every experience!<\/p>\n

I see this in relation to the government, my friends, my partner, my clients, my neighbours, and everywhere!
\nIt\u2019s because of you, that I\u2019m able to see myself! All of ME!<\/p>\n

we all walk each other home (Ram Dass)<\/p>\n

\u2014\u2014-This is for everyone who never felt safe being themselves!<\/p>\n<\/div>

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