What\u2019s the difference between giving yourself what you think you want and getting what you truly need? For me, it\u2019s a game changer. I feel genuinely blessed when I receive what I truly need in the moment, because that\u2019s exactly where I need to be to re-balance myself and move forward in life.No, my life isn\u2019t flat at all. Every day is a full-potential day just waiting to unfold before my eyes. I love that!<\/p>\n
Am I tired? Sometimes even exhausted, I\u2019d say. Do I feel unsafe? Absolutely. Is it boring? Never! Am I rich? Oh yes, rich in experiences! And am I planning a future that sustains me? Yes, that\u2019s my next big thing. But instead of \u201cplanning,\u201d it serves me better to say \u201cimagining.\u201dEven when I hit a plateau of stillness\u2014when nothing seems to be moving on the surface\u2014I know that everything is still in motion. Right now, what I need is exactly what I’m getting: stillness. Over the years, I’ve learned to “simply” allow it. There\u2019s a time for the restless warrior to move and a time for the wise one to rest.<\/p>\n
Trusting and surrendering to what is\u2014that\u2019s the secret, if I may say so. Not trusting the mind; it has its own practicalities. Thank goodness I’ve been practicing this distinction for quite some time now (I taught a workshop called \u201cHeart vs Mind – Frienemies\u201d in Thisseio, Athens nine years ago).We need to allow ourselves to observe feelings of guilt, awkwardness, shame, and unworthiness. Do we truly love ourselves? Or do we only \u201clove\u201d ourselves for reasons that aren\u2019t enough? We see it every day: we love ourselves when we get what we want but feel unworthy when things don\u2019t go as planned or when we face rejection.I feel beautiful when my partner admires me, but I spiral into crisis the moment they leave.<\/p>\n
When I allow myself to receive what I need and stay present, there\u2019s a profound sense of completion, satisfaction, and wholeness that washes over me. In those moments, there\u2019s no room for anyone else in my life. Sometimes I feel like sharing, but most of the time, I enjoy being on my own and enhancing my experience by giving myself more of what makes me happy. This is a one-person love story, and I\u2019m all in!On the flip side, when I think I’m getting what I need, it doesn\u2019t feel as smooth or pure. Instead of a sense of peace, I often find myself reacting\u2014moving and running\u2014rather than simply Being. There\u2019s a huge difference there, at least in my body.<\/p>\n
The question remains for so many of us: how do we truly love ourselves\u2014utterly and fiercely?<\/p>\n
Roula<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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