What’s the difference between giving yourself what you think you want and getting what you truly need? For me, it’s a game changer. I feel genuinely blessed when I receive what I truly need in the moment, because that’s exactly where I need to be to re-balance myself and move forward in life.No, my life isn’t flat at all. Every day is a full-potential day just waiting to unfold before my eyes. I love that!
The Ups and Downs
Am I tired? Sometimes even exhausted, I’d say. Do I feel unsafe? Absolutely. Is it boring? Never! Am I rich? Oh yes, rich in experiences! And am I planning a future that sustains me? Yes, that’s my next big thing. But instead of “planning,” it serves me better to say “imagining.”Even when I hit a plateau of stillness—when nothing seems to be moving on the surface—I know that everything is still in motion. Right now, what I need is exactly what I’m getting: stillness. Over the years, I’ve learned to “simply” allow it. There’s a time for the restless warrior to move and a time for the wise one to rest.
Trusting the Process
Trusting and surrendering to what is—that’s the secret, if I may say so. Not trusting the mind; it has its own practicalities. Thank goodness I’ve been practicing this distinction for quite some time now (I taught a workshop called “Heart vs Mind – Frienemies” in Thisseio, Athens nine years ago).We need to allow ourselves to observe feelings of guilt, awkwardness, shame, and unworthiness. Do we truly love ourselves? Or do we only “love” ourselves for reasons that aren’t enough? We see it every day: we love ourselves when we get what we want but feel unworthy when things don’t go as planned or when we face rejection.I feel beautiful when my partner admires me, but I spiral into crisis the moment they leave.
The Power of Presence
When I allow myself to receive what I need and stay present, there’s a profound sense of completion, satisfaction, and wholeness that washes over me. In those moments, there’s no room for anyone else in my life. Sometimes I feel like sharing, but most of the time, I enjoy being on my own and enhancing my experience by giving myself more of what makes me happy. This is a one-person love story, and I’m all in!On the flip side, when I think I’m getting what I need, it doesn’t feel as smooth or pure. Instead of a sense of peace, I often find myself reacting—moving and running—rather than simply Being. There’s a huge difference there, at least in my body.
The Ongoing Question
The question remains for so many of us: how do we truly love ourselves—utterly and fiercely?
Roula
